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Sometimes there are no winners
Published October 23, 2009
In a society so focused on winners or losers, it’s a sobering reality to find sometimes there just are no winners. I found that this week when covering the upcoming death penalty trials of the three Monroe men accused in the death of 65-year-old Epsie Ewing from Loganville.
I know as a daughter, sister and granddaughter, I would have been devastated had any of my family members died in the horrific way Epsie Ewing did. I can tell when I speak to her family how tortured they are by what she had to go through in the last few weeks of her life. So I can’t imagine I would feel anything less than blind anger had it been my loved one who was the victim. I believe I would be looking for the death penalty too.
But as a mother, I also know I would be equally as tortured if it were my child who was accused in such a heinous crime. Nature has given most of us instinctive unconditional love when it comes to our children. We love them when they cry unnecessarily as babies, when they misbehave as toddlers and when they smart off as teenagers.
So I can only imagine we would love them no matter what they’re accused of. It has to be the same in the case of the three young men accused in the murder. What a terrible situation for those parents to be in.
They say they don’t believe their children are guilty but should it be proved otherwise they expect them to accept the consequences of their actions.
None of us know the full truth at this point and can only hope the judicial system provides the resolution it was established to do.
As parents, we always think to steer our children away from making the wrong choices when it comes to such things and drinking, drugs and whom they choose as friends. We don’t always think of choices that could have such devastating consequences as in this case.
There are also the children, siblings and spouse of Mrs. Ewing — they too have to deal with conflicted emotions over choices made that helped set in motion the events leading up to the attack.
As parents are with their children, so is it the other way around. We, as parents, don’t always do what our children would like us to, but we expect them to love us unconditionally anyway. So how much harder must it be when the eventual outcome is such a tragic one?
In a case with so many twists and turns, there are several people who have to feel actions by them in some way contributed to the events of May 21 that resulted in the death of a completely innocent victim, whether directly or indirectly.
And there are also so many more people now left dealing with the consequences. Epsie Ewing is the primary victim here, and that cannot be forgotten.
But there are so many other lives that have been torn apart too.
As is so often the case when wrong choices are made, there are no winners — except maybe for anyone who might be able to learn from this and realize just how devastating such choices can be.
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